Do you experiment with you partner in the bedroom?
Do you play around with toys?
Do you try sensory excitement with your partner?
If you answered NO to any of the above questions I’m here to help.
Everything I’m outlining in this post should not be tried until you’ve had some serious discussions with your partner and done some research on how best to give and receive pleasure as a dom and sub. There are plenty of books and sites dedicated to the subject and I suggest you start there before fully going down this exciting path. If you need help finding information to explore and learn from you can message me on my OnlyFans page and I will be more than happy to direct you to things that have helped my learn and grow.
Your bedroom should always be a safe place to try new things out with your partner. Trying things out can help with communication not only in the bedroom but also outside of it.
Below are some things you can try with your partner to spice things up.
- One of the easiest things you can do to bring excitement to the bedroom is to play around with toys. If you don’t have toy play as part of your foreplay you need to change that right now.
Talk to you partner and see what toys they like. If they have a favorite already, surprise them by being the one to bring it out the next time you are together. If they don’t have a favorite find one with them. Shop together to find a toy that they really want to try out. Surprise them with the toy as a gift and get rewarded by getting to use it with them right away.
Toys can help you find out what really excites your partner and lead you to more passionate sex. - Hot and Cold play. Try drinking something hot and cold and then kiss your partners skin. Watch their whole body be aroused by the change in temperature.
You can also try to play with a little ice. Less is more when it comes to ice play but a tease across the nipples will always heighten their senses and be sure to follow it up with a warm kiss. - Don’t be afraid to tie your partner up. If you really want to heighten their experience be sure to try a blindfold as well. I recommend using something like a satin strap to tie your partner up at first. Remember the goal is to limit their movement not completely restrict it.
Start with just tying up their hands and arms and then let your hands, fingers and lips run wild all over their body.
Once you have gotten comfortable with the stain straps you can move up to more restrictive restraints like cuffs and rope. Be sure to always talk to your partner about what they want and at first give them a way to get out of the straps on their own. - Spanking can be highly erotic. This is not spanking to leave a mark right from the start. This is spanking and teasing to arouse your partner.
Always start this with your hand being sure to massage after each spank. When you find how much and how hard your partner likes it you can move up to floggers, paddles and crops. Be sure to always swap sides that you are spanking and take your time.
You should tease their bottom to get them in a heightened state of arousal not sure when you are going to spank them.
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