I feel that people hide their sexuality so much. How on earth is anybody supposed to please you sexually if you don’t know yourself sexually? Being raised in a very close minded Mormon household, sex was never up for discussion. The forbidden fruit is always the most tempting!
There is a reason why Utah has the highest rate of rape and molestation. Then looking at Las Vegas which has one of the lowest. The preachers’ daughter is usually the most slutty if you get to know her. Sex is completely natural and all the kinky naughty desires, whether that may be sleeping with the same sex or having something shoved up your ass is completely natural… in my opinion!
There is no real normal when it comes to sex. After being in this industry for quite some time now, I have learned to love the kinks! I have tried all sorts of things.. Barking like a dog (though I sounded like a yorkie and I could not stop laughing), licking my toes (rather have someone else do that), or dominating a man telling him to dip his balls in hot wax (that was thrilling and a bit scary… poor swimmers). My point being, most people have very basic kinks so don’t feel intimidated to try something new in the bedroom.
Opening up the conversation can be intimidating at first especially for men (Ya’ll don’t typically communicate well) however, it’s soooo important! Start opening up the conversation on a whole with asking “what do you do that turns them on the most?” Then “what do you do that they are not really a fan of?” “What have they always wanted to try but never have?” “What’s the kinkist thing you have ever tried?” “What’s something you have done sexually that you think would shock me?” And so on!
Sometimes it becomes difficult when these conversations bring up past relationships. Just know the past is in the past and if your partner wanted to be with someone else then they would be. No good being jealous it just makes both parties be more secretive and shut down. Just focus on the positive knowing this will only strengthen your communication skills and typically your relationship.