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It’s okay to be tied up

Do you experiment with you partner in the bedroom?

Do you play around with toys?

Do you try sensory excitement with your partner?

If you answered NO to any of the above questions I’m here to help.

Everything I’m outlining in this post should not be tried until you’ve had some serious discussions with your partner and done some research on how best to give and receive pleasure as a dom and sub. There are plenty of books and sites dedicated to the subject and I suggest you start there before fully going down this exciting path. If you need help finding information to explore and learn from you can message me on my OnlyFans page and I will be more than happy to direct you to things that have helped my learn and grow.

Your bedroom should always be a safe place to try new things out with your partner. Trying things out can help with communication not only in the bedroom but also outside of it.

Below are some things you can try with your partner to spice things up.

  1. One of the easiest things you can do to bring excitement to the bedroom is to play around with toys. If you don’t have toy play as part of your foreplay you need to change that right now.

    Talk to you partner and see what toys they like. If they have a favorite already, surprise them by being the one to bring it out the next time you are together. If they don’t have a favorite find one with them. Shop together to find a toy that they really want to try out. Surprise them with the toy as a gift and get rewarded by getting to use it with them right away.

    Toys can help you find out what really excites your partner and lead you to more passionate sex.

  2. Hot and Cold play. Try drinking something hot and cold and then kiss your partners skin. Watch their whole body be aroused by the change in temperature.

    You can also try to play with a little ice. Less is more when it comes to ice play but a tease across the nipples will always heighten their senses and be sure to follow it up with a warm kiss.

  3. Don’t be afraid to tie your partner up. If you really want to heighten their experience be sure to try a blindfold as well. I recommend using something like a satin strap to tie your partner up at first. Remember the goal is to limit their movement not completely restrict it.

    Start with just tying up their hands and arms and then let your hands, fingers and lips run wild all over their body.

    Once you have gotten comfortable with the stain straps you can move up to more restrictive restraints like cuffs and rope. Be sure to always talk to your partner about what they want and at first give them a way to get out of the straps on their own.

  4. Spanking can be highly erotic. This is not spanking to leave a mark right from the start. This is spanking and teasing to arouse your partner.

    Always start this with your hand being sure to massage after each spank. When you find how much and how hard your partner likes it you can move up to floggers, paddles and crops. Be sure to always swap sides that you are spanking and take your time.

    You should tease their bottom to get them in a heightened state of arousal not sure when you are going to spank them.

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Bringing Dress Up in to the Bedroom

Playing dress up in the bedroom can have several benefits for individuals and couples, both in terms of personal enjoyment and enhancing the overall intimacy of their relationship. Here are some potential benefits:

  1. Spice and Variety: Dressing up in different outfits or costumes can add excitement and novelty to your sexual experiences. It allows you to explore different roles, fantasies, and scenarios, which can help keep things fresh and engaging.
  2. Enhanced Fantasy Fulfillment: Dressing up can enable you to act out fantasies that you might not otherwise be able to in your daily life. This can lead to a heightened sense of satisfaction and fulfillment.
  3. Increased Confidence: Wearing different outfits can help boost your self-confidence and body image. Dressing up as a character or persona can allow you to temporarily shed inhibitions and feel more empowered.
  4. Improved Communication: Playing dress up requires communication and collaboration between partners. Discussing fantasies, preferences, and role-playing scenarios can enhance your communication skills and foster a deeper understanding of each other’s desires.
  5. Escape from Routine: Routine can sometimes lead to sexual boredom. Dressing up can break this monotony by introducing an element of surprise and unpredictability into your intimate moments.
  6. Emotional Connection: Engaging in role-play and dress-up activities can create a stronger emotional connection between partners. Sharing intimate fantasies and desires can lead to greater intimacy and a deeper bond.
  7. Laughter and Playfulness: Dressing up can be a fun and lighthearted activity. It can lead to laughter, playfulness, and a sense of joy, which can contribute to a positive and enjoyable sexual experience.
  8. Creative Expression: Dressing up allows for creative expression, both in terms of choosing outfits and embodying different characters. This creativity can add a new dimension to your sexual encounters.
  9. Mindset Shift: Putting on a different persona through dress-up can help you shift your mindset from your everyday roles and responsibilities to a more sensual or adventurous mindset, enhancing your ability to be present in the moment.
  10. Role Reversal: Dressing up can involve role reversal, where partners take on different roles or power dynamics. This can be particularly exciting for couples who enjoy exploring power play scenarios.
  11. Exploration of Desires: Dressing up can create a safe space for exploring desires that you might feel hesitant to express otherwise. It can encourage open conversations about what turns you on and what you want to try.
  12. Memorable Experiences: Dress-up scenarios can create memorable experiences that you and your partner can look back on fondly. These shared experiences can strengthen your relationship over time.
  13. Respect for Boundaries: Role play is an excellent way to practice consent and respecting boundaries. Before engaging in any scenario, partners must discuss and agree upon the boundaries and limits involved, promoting a safe and respectful sexual environment.
  14. Long-Term Relationship Maintenance: For couples in long-term relationships, maintaining a healthy sex life can be challenging. Role play can inject a sense of adventure and novelty, helping to keep the sexual spark alive.

It’s important to note that everyone’s preferences and comfort levels are different. Consent, communication, and mutual respect are crucial when engaging in any sexual activity, including dress-up play. Make sure that both you and your partner are on the same page, and always prioritize each other’s comfort and boundaries.

If you ever want to talk about ways to better your sexual wellness I’m here for you. Join me on my fan page and send me a message and I will address any questions you have. One of my passions in life is helping others especially when it comes to having better sex lives and overall health.

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Lingerie as part of a healthy sex life

I do love the way I feel in Lingerie and it’s a big part of a healthy sex life. I want to start using my site more to help others explore their sexual wellness and plan on posting more around topics related to that. Here’s a little post about bringing lingerie in to you and your partners sex life to live a happy and healthy life

Lingerie can be a fun and exciting addition to a healthy and fulfilling sex life for you and your partner. It can add an element of novelty, anticipation, and sensuality to the intimate moments shared between partners. Here are some ways lingerie can contribute to a healthy sex life:

  1. Variety and Novelty: Incorporating lingerie into your sex life can introduce variety and novelty, which can help prevent routine and boredom in the bedroom. Trying out different styles, colors, and designs can keep the excitement alive in your relationship.
  2. Confidence Boost: Wearing lingerie can boost self-confidence and body positivity. Feeling attractive and desired can enhance your overall self-esteem and lead to a more positive body image, which in turn can positively impact your intimate experiences. As I always mention I love the way lingerie makes me feel and feeling empowered is the best way to bring excitement to the bedroom.
  3. Anticipation and Foreplay: Choosing and wearing lingerie can create anticipation for both partners. The process of selecting, revealing, and appreciating each other’s outfits can serve as a form of foreplay, building anticipation and excitement before intimacy.
  4. Communication: The process of discussing preferences and choosing lingerie together fosters open communication about desires, fantasies, and boundaries. This communication can lead to a deeper understanding of each other’s needs and help create a more fulfilling sexual connection. Find out what color your partner loves and buy a surprise lingerie gift in that color to get the conversations started.
  5. Role Play and Fantasy: Lingerie can be used as part of role-playing scenarios or fulfilling sexual fantasies. It allows you to explore different personas and scenarios in a safe and consensual way, enhancing the fantasy aspect of your sex life. Don’t be afraid to role play. I recommend starting with something simple and easy and then as you talk more with your partner you expand on your fantasies. If you travel a lot a role play scenario could be the strangers meeting at a bar. You don’t just have to role play in the bedroom the fantasy can begin outside the house and then continue at home.
  6. Connection and Intimacy: Introducing lingerie can deepen the emotional and physical connection between partners. The effort put into selecting and wearing lingerie can communicate a desire to please and connect with your partner on a deeper level.
  7. Sensory Stimulation: Different textures, fabrics, and styles of lingerie can provide sensory stimulation, adding to the overall sensual experience. Soft fabrics can enhance touch sensations, contributing to a heightened sense of pleasure. Be sure to spend time feeling your partners body while letting your hands and fingers run all over the lingerie. The feeling of the heat of a hand coming through silk and lace is amazing and will allow your partner to have their own sensual experience in the outfit. You get to see the sexy visual of the look, let them really feel the sensual qualities of the lingerie.
  8. Spontaneity: Surprise your partner with lingerie to inject spontaneity into your relationship. This element of surprise can rekindle passion and create memorable, spontaneous moments.

Remember that a healthy sex life is built on mutual consent, trust, and open communication. If you and your partner are both interested in incorporating lingerie into your intimate moments, have a candid conversation about your desires, boundaries, and expectations to ensure a positive and enjoyable experience for both of you.

I can’t wait to hear your feedback on this post. Don’t be afraid do share what you love about lingerie and how it brings passion and excitement to you and your partners sex life.

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Need Sex

I guess this is just a rant, not a real educational insight into my mind. How come I have way more in common with the majority of men that I deal with than women. I want sex twice a week at minimum every week. Once a week will do however I get so stressed out and it’s my stress relief. There are times where it’s literally hard to think about anything else. There was a statistic that I heard a long time ago that men think about sex once or twice every minute I am definitely on par with that. I catch myself glancing at a man’s groin and wondering what that cock looks like or at women and I will wonder if she tastes good. I am grateful I have such a high sex drive but sometimes it becomes debilitating. To a point where I fear being around someone I highly sexually desire. Would love to hear from others that also struggle at times for an overly active sex drive. Please leave me a comment or two.

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Don’t Hide your Sexuality

I feel that people hide their sexuality so much. How on earth is anybody supposed to please you sexually if you don’t know yourself sexually? Being raised in a very close minded Mormon household, sex was never up for discussion. The forbidden fruit is always the most tempting!  

There is a reason why Utah has the highest rate of rape and molestation. Then looking at Las Vegas which has one of the lowest. The preachers’ daughter is usually the most slutty if you get to know her. Sex is completely natural and all the kinky naughty desires, whether that may be sleeping with the same sex or having something shoved up your ass is completely natural… in my opinion! 

There is no real normal when it comes to sex. After being in this industry for quite some time now, I have learned to love the kinks! I have tried all sorts of things.. Barking like a dog (though I sounded like a yorkie and I could not stop laughing), licking my toes (rather have someone else do that), or dominating a man telling him to dip his balls in hot wax (that was thrilling and a bit scary… poor swimmers). My point being, most people have very basic kinks so don’t feel intimidated to try something new in the bedroom. 

Opening up the conversation can be intimidating at first especially for men (Ya’ll don’t typically communicate well) however, it’s soooo important! Start opening up the conversation on a whole with asking “what do you do that turns them on the most?” Then “what do you do that they are not really a fan of?” “What have they always wanted to try but never have?” “What’s the kinkist thing you have ever tried?” “What’s something you have done sexually that you think would shock me?” And so on! 

Sometimes it becomes difficult when these conversations bring up past relationships. Just know the past is in the past and if your partner wanted to be with someone else then they would be. No good being jealous it just makes both parties be more secretive and shut down. Just focus on the positive knowing this will only strengthen your communication skills and typically your relationship. 

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Sex makes the world a better place

Well I’m new to this blogging thing so please forgive me as I slowly start posting things…

I figured you guys can get to know me a little bit more through these posts. 

One of my hard core beliefs is the whole world needs to have more sex and the world would just simply be a better place. I have a hard time when I hear about people denying their partners simply because they’re not in the mood or giving the lame ass excuse of a headache. Yes, there definitely have been times that I am not 100% in the mood. However, within a matter of 30 seconds my mind shifts and my body says yes yes yes! I know I am one of those who have a incredibly high sex drive however, I feel like if people would embrace their sexuality more they too could enjoy a higher sex drive. I think it’s somewhat of an obligation on both parties to satisfy your partner, or at least attempt to! “A blow job a day keeps the mistresses away” is a quote I heard the other day and I love it! I do think that every single day is a bit much however, multiple times a week…hell yes! 

So get out there and have more sex with your partner!